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here's Steve's top five tips on checking
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in on a mate tip number one don't try to
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fix it if at the end of the conversation
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they know you deal with them mission
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accomplished number two don't wait for
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it not to be awkward it's probably
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always going to be a little bit awkward
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so just stick with it and lean into it
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and do it anyway
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tip number three if it is awkward
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sometimes it can be helpful to say that
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out loud look mate this is awkward but I
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care enough that I'm going to do it
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anyway
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tip number four if they say they're fine
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and you don't believe them you've got a
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couple of options one is to call monitor
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there and then look mate I'm not sure
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you are
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or tip number two Circle back in a
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couple of days and she
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can check that way they know that you're
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coming they know that you care enough to
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check in and follow up
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might be a bit more open
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and finally if you do say something
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stupid if you do stick your foot in your
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mouth if you do Miss step which is all
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very human and normal just acknowledge
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that and say that out loud look mate I
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feel like I said the wrong thing there
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and then Circle back to the conversation
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and checking it either way if you get
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across the start line if you don't lean
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into the awkwardness and difficulty and
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then you're probably doing yourself in
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your metaphase