Things that can affect your spirit
The stuff that is going on inside your heart and head can end up affecting many other areas of your life – including your Wairua / Spirit.
This section outlines the specific pages on our website that look at the most common (sometimes very common) problems with how you feel inside yourself and offers pathways to getting on top of them.
Feeling Sad or Grieving
Sadness or mourning a loss is a natural human emotion and nothing to be ashamed of. It’s called grief and we all grieve in different ways. It can feel like it is a pain that will never go away - but the old saying “time is a great healer” is a very true one. Having said that, sometimes time is not our friend and although it’s not good to accelerate the grieving process, it may be important to find ways to help us cope with grief.
This section defines grief in detail, describes the different ways grief can affect you and suggests ways you can help yourself and where you can get help if you need it.
Feeling sad or blue is a normal emotion and for most of us, it passes quickly and we are able to get back to our normal selves. However, continually feeling low or sad to the point that it starts to affect your ability to function normally may mean you might have developed depression and you will need to seek professional help
Troubled by Memories
After a distressing or traumatic experience, it’s normal to relive what happened and even to have dreams about it. If it gets too much, we might deliberately try to block it out and force ourselves to think about something else. This usually settles down within the first week or two. But if it keeps going, and you don’t feel like you’re able to come to terms with what has happened you might have a problem with posttraumatic stress.
Sometime we feel unsettle within or disjointed. Perhaps a feeling of “lostness?” We can try to fill that void or emptiness through various interventions (alcohol, partying, relationships) and sometimes these interventions help, but sometimes they don’t, or they may even make those feelings worse. You may find it helpful to take time to reflect on where those feelings are coming from. You may find it helpful to pray or mediate. Sometimes talking to an elder, a kaumatua, a chaplain or a priest, can help you make sense of what is going on for you.
All of us experience anxiety and sometimes it can seem like fear, after all we’re human beings and even the staunchest of us will be fearful or worried from time to time. It’s often hard to differentiate when you are anxious and when you are afraid – for example, are you scared of flying or are you worried about flying. Whether it’s a fear or an anxiety doesn’t really matter, but it becomes a problem when any fears or anxieties affect your ability to cope with your daily responsibilities. Talking to someone or prayer can be very powerful at times.
These sections talk about feeling anxious and defines anxiety in detail, describes the different kinds of anxiety you may experience and gives suggestions as to what you can do about it and where you can get help if you need it.
Do you have a short fuse, get frustrated easily, wound up by the actions of others or have the tendency to get aggressive? If so, you might have an anger problem, especially if the consequences of your anger causes problems for others.
Religious people find that the encouragement to forgive those who hurt us can be very powerful. It can release the other person from your anger and give you a sense of freedom or moving on.
This section looks at anger, why you get angry, what you can do to control it and where you can get help if you need it.