Helping yourself

Self-help is an important part of recovery for anyone who has concerns about their mental health and wellbeing. You don’t have to be diagnosed with a mental health disorder to benefit. Life can be filled with many challenges. If these challenges are not addressed they can lead to problems. This section describes some simple strategies and healthy habits that, along with the support of family and friends, can go a long way to help you meet these challenges and better manage your life.

Helping yourself

Many of the habits and strategies below are basic common sense, but that doesn’t mean they’re not important. Getting the basics right will go a long way to helping you cope.

Don’t try to do everything at once. When you have read the following sections, you may wish to stop for a while and work out a ‘plan of action’. Consider these questions:

  • Which of these issues sound particularly relevant for you?
  • Which strategies are you prepared to try?

Select only one or two to begin with. Come up with a plan to work on them, one at a time, and set yourself some realistic goals for the next week. At the end of the week, review your progress; modify your goals if necessary and/or try some additional strategies for the following week. Over time, you will gradually develop a range of coping strategies and changes to your lifestyle that will help you to feel more in control of your symptoms, and get more out of life.

Diet

Eat healthy meals. This sounds so simple, but how many of us actually do it? A poor diet will increase your stress levels, which makes even small problems harder to deal with. Have a look at our section on Nutrition. If you’re not sure what you should be eating, talk to your general practitioner, or a dietician.

Being active

When you’re struggling a bit, it’s easy to focus on all the problems you’ve got to deal with and stop doing the things that you used to find enjoyable. But even though you might not feel like getting involved in hobbies or other activities, being active is important for both your mental and physical health.

Exercise is also vital in effectively managing stress. Exercise helps you to relax by burning up those chemicals (like adrenalin) that are hyping you up. Half an hour of vigorous exercise most days will greatly improve your fitness and sense of wellbeing.

If you’re having trouble getting motivated to get active and do things you enjoy, please visit the Physical Activity page, or the Getting Active section of the Resilience toolkit, which have various activity tools to help you get started.

Sleeping better

Problems often seem much bigger and harder to deal with when you’re tired, so getting a good night’s sleep is important in helping you overcome the challenges you’re facing. There are a lot of reasons for not sleeping well.

For advice and tools to help manage your sleep, try the Sleeping Better section of the Resilience toolkit or look at the sleep page of this website.

Setting goals and solving problems

Setting goals on a regular basis helps to bring structure, achievement, and a sense of satisfaction to our lives. Set small, realistic goals to help tackle obstacles. At first, things may seem impossible, but if you break them down into small steps they’re manageable. 

Go to the Problem Solving page or check out the Resilience toolkit to help you set goals and solve problems.

Helpful thinking

The way we think about ourselves and the things that happen to us affects how we feel and act. People under stress often develop thinking habits that make them feel even worse about things. Unhelpful thoughts are those that make you feel distressed, or hinder you in getting along with other people. They make it more difficult to deal with your situation, by making you feel overwhelmed or hopeless. It sounds strange but people often don’t think about how they’re thinking, so unhelpful thinking just keeps happening automatically. The good news is that, with a bit of practice, you can teach yourself to replace unhelpful thoughts with helpful ones – thoughts that help you deal with the situation and improve your mood.

For more advice and tools to get better at thinking in helpful ways, look at the Helpful Thinking page or check out the Resilience toolkit.

Managing reactions

When we’re not doing so well, certain situations can trigger distressing reactions that affect our mood, health, decision making, our ability to get things done, and our relationships with other people. Learning skills to manage these reactions can improve self-confidence, relationships, and health, and reduce our reliance on unhelpful ways of coping, like drinking too much or avoiding situations that make us anxious, stressed, or angry.

For advice and tools to get better at managing your reactions, go to the Reactions page, or check out the Keeping Calm section of the Resilience toolkit.

Building support

Having people around you to support you through tough times is really important, but it’s easy to pull away from everyone when you’re not feeling great. You might feel like your friends and family don’t understand what you’re going through, or that hanging out with the guys from your old unit brings back too many bad memories. Everyone needs time to themselves now and then, but being isolated for too long isn’t good for you. It might feel strange to start with but you can build up your social connections, so that you have a few different people or groups that you can turn to for different types of support.

For more advice and tools to help you build up your social connections, check out the Building Support section from the Resilience toolkit.

Self help for people with a mental health disorder

The Resilience toolkit is a self-help resource that is designed to improve mental health and wellbeing for people with and without a mental health disorder.

If you have been diagnosed with a mental health problem, you might also find online treatment that is tailored for your particular mental health problem helpful.  If you decide to do one of these online treatments we would recommend that you discuss it with your GP, or other mental health professional.